5 Ultimate ways to meet your spouse needs.

          Marriage rotates on the fulcrum simply referred to as needs. As a shepherd in the vineyard of the Lord, most of the time people asked the secret of a successful marriage. Nowadays almost 95% of marriages lead to divorce, which force many people to look for a way out and how to sustain and make their marriage work. The only answer to this question is to create avenue to meet your partner’s needs.

  You must realise that marriage is work. Both of you must be prepared to work it out together to meet each others needs. It is a fact that human wants are insatiable likewise you cannot meet all those needs that your partner need. You must be ready to package yourself to meet a large percentage of your spouse’s needs.

         To meet those needs you must study your spouse well and understand the needs so that you will not go contrary. When you understand your spouse, you will be able to serve and provide the needs better and be able to touch your spouses mind. Whenever you touch his or her mind the reaction you will get will be positive to what you have anticipated. Do not assume that your needs are the same. Stop kidding, it may not.

          You may feel that she needs your caressing or hugging which may not be so. She may need a long moon walks, etc. She may be tired watching Tv. Show and wants you to talk intimately over your relationship.

          Meeting His and Hers needs in a marriage relationship is establishing a fulfilled peaceful marital life

a)    Man need sexual fulfillment. This need is above physical body involvement, but embraces mental and emotional. Many house wives fail to realise this: their spouse life and many husband don’t do not aware of this too. Failure to recognise sexual need as mental and emotional needs by couples and mere recognising it as a physical need only generates sexual problem.

     Use your God giving endowment creativity as couples to achieve a fulfilling experience. To be satisfied sexually both partner must pay rapt attention to each other and recognise your differences in body rhythms, how to receive sexual pleasure and excitement. 

Gossiply, many women report my husband is too dirty: He doesn’t believe in showering, brushing his teeth or washing his hand. How do you think I can enjoy sex with that man? This is an allegation, you must pay attention to simple hygienic rules. As you move close to your wife make sure you are in good perspective as you were when dating her.

 b)    Material needs is of little emphases to women. Women need affection more than anything in life. Then prefer hugs, kisses, and caressing, handholding, backrubs than sex. Affection precedes foreplay in women. Women like being petted, caressed, embraced. Physical love actions put a stop to many questions that goes on in the mind of the women that “Do you love me? If you let your wife realise you teased her with your kiss to get her into bed she won’t feel truly loved.

  c)     Wives should note it as a point of duty never to discuss your husbands affairs with the third party. Derogatory or degrading statement in the presence of your kids is an abomination which you must avoid like hay fire.

     Gossiping and broadcasting your marital frustration will not help you to achieve your desired objective, avoid it. Give him adequate respect and let him know he is the greatest thing in life you admire most. Position and impress yourself in his mind as a caring wife.

 d)    Most men are deceivers, they pretend to be honest, open and having good communication with their wives. Honesty, openness and good communication needs and most essential ingredients and life-blood of marital relationship. Wives need to know about how their husbands feel in the family, place of work, detail capability of their car engine etc. 

      Husband’s role is to initiate a way to be honest, open, and communicate well in such a manner that will not bring suspicion. Commit yourself as husband to meeting your wife needs.

 e)    Wives want their husband total commitment to their family. They want the husband to put their family affairs on the top of his priority. They expect him to spend reasonable amount of time with the kids. Unfortunately most men still run up and down to sustain their job so as to keep soul and body together, they think about house to buy a big house and luxury to satisfy their family, they work as monkeys and never think of the family that will occupy and live there.

     They use to come home late tired, and complaining about long hours of their jobs, they a times sleep on a sofa – long chair or crawling into bed next to their wives. They are not usually recognised as part of the family. They do not care about immediate needs of their family, and they are regarded as strangers in to their own family.