7 Best Stategies To Make Your Marriage Peacefuful And Happier, Starting Today

The early enjoyment  period commonly known as honeymoon in most marriages has a short lifespan. Yet you can establish and bring back those fluttery butterfly feelings of excitement and anticipation everyone experiences at the beginning of a relationship.

 All marriages pass through rough patches. Some don’t survive long enough to come out the other side unscathed. But many do. Here are 7 best strategies to maintain and keep your marriage fresh.

 

1. Make it a duty to remind your partner (and yourself) that you appreciate them.

 Being married for many, many years, that passionate kiss when your partner walks in the door can easily  change into a peck on the cheek that can then transform into an inability even to look up from your computer or recognise his presence.

 When men don’t feel connected or appreciated by their wives, they are susceptible to the move or advances of any attractive woman who casts a lustful glance at them. My people, it works the other way as well.

Remember a relationship is like a shark and it has to constantly move forward or it dies rightly opined by Woody Allen in his film “Annie Hall"

2. Appreciate yourselves no matter the condition.

Learn to appreciate one another by saying thank you for the little things.  This will go a long way to boost your partner's  morale and foster a sense of belonging. Do not apportion any blame or claiming that you have done so so activity in the past.

 That you are waiting in turn to make her contribution in return. Tit for tat is a childish play don't allow it. Always overlook what your partner has done wrong but focus the positive areas.

3.Take care of your appearance.

Your appearance matter most. Your appearance will show whom you are to the public. Though you have married for many years with  a few kids under your care.That is never a tenable excuse to let your appearance slide.

 Remember when you first met your partner. Would you have walked around in stained sweatpants and without brushing your teeth? My guess is no.Make sure you constantly repackage yourself and make your appearance attractive to your partner.

Sometimes my husband will say “wow, you look nice” as I’m walking out the door for a girls’ night out. At least pay your spouse the same courtesy you do your friends by fixing yourself up for him or her every once in awhile

4.Watch your words.

You must be watchful and careful of your utterances i.e. what comes out of your mouth. Relationship is growing to know one another intimately. Therefore any word that will hurt your partner must be avoided at all cost.

There are many things you should never say to a longtime spouse, the first being: “Don’t you think our new neighbor is attractive?” That’s a question you just think you want to know the answer to. It’s also never a good idea to start a sentence with: “You know it’s always been your problem that...” Who wants to hear that from their partner?

We hopefully all have a pretty good sense of ourselves at this point and having someone you love point out a failing in this way does little to engender a loving relationship. Say lovely words that will make your partner think of you even if you are not around.

Don't establish a character  that when you are not around she will have a sign of relieve than when you are around.

5. Be kind to one another

  Being kind to your partner is a sign that you appreciate her as your better half.You must know very well that you are helping yourself whenever you are kind to her because whatever happens to her happens to you.

 A much healthier pattern is to start out each day by asking yourself, “What can I do today to make my partner happy?” Doesn’t it make more sense to put your best face on for someone you love? Look for ways to say “yes.”

This rule applies to parenting as well, but in a happy marriage, people are busy trying to please each other. Learn doing things for your partner the right way.

 6. Maintain closeness and passion, both inside and outside the bedroom.

Intimacy isn’t just sex and passion isn’t just doing it on the kitchen counter. Bedroom habits age along with the marriage. There may be no stronger approach than a moonlight walk on the beach that ends in a kiss.

There may be no greater display of passion than the zeal of a partner in a hospital room trying to get the nurse’s attention for an ailing wife. Don’t let others define what is a “normal” or “healthy” amount of sex for your marriage.

 Know that things change, but that doesn’t make them less exciting or fun. And intimacy comes in many shapes, including conversation and cuddling.

7. Take pleasure in silence.

Sometimes the proper and best way to address a problem is to just keep silence or walk away from it to let it go. Not every slight or problem must be addressed. Know that not every insult is intended.

 Practice letting go as much as you can. Forgive more. Forget more.  And once in a while, remind yourself of why you married this person. Focus on those reasons and let stuff pass without mention.

The trick to successful silence, however, is that you really let the problem pass. If you stay silent and still harbor bad thoughts, well, that’s where ulcers come from. As the Beatles told us, “Let It Be.”

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